How to manage family conflict when planning a funeral

 In Funeral News

It has been said that funerals bring out the best and worst in people. Planning a funeral is never easy, especially when the deceased didn’t pre-plan their funeral or share their final wishes. While not everyone will agree on every detail, it shouldn’t be made harder by tension and disagreements amongst family members – after all, you all share a common goal: to give your loved one the send-off they deserve. To try and manage family conflict, try these steps:

Let go of old grudges

You might have never forgotten your sister stealing your necklace or forgiven your aunt for missing your wedding. Whatever resentment you have, now is not the time to bring it up. Focus on the task at hand.

Don’t take sides

Side-taking is common amongst grieving families – while everyone likely has their idea of “what they would want”, determine the final arrangements together as a family.

Let go of the reins

One person being in control of a situation is usually productive in the work environment, but when it comes to planning a funeral, it is best to share the responsibility. Making decisions on your own will lead to unnecessary arguments and stress.


Family members must understand that there won’t be unanimous agreements for everything. Take a step back and consider the bigger picture. Compromise should be the priority, and sometimes you will have to agree to disagree.

Listen and be respectful

Set an example by listening to everyone. You may not agree with someone, but if you listen respectively then they should do the same in return and you can come to an agreement together.

Communicate honestly

Let everyone have their input. Take it in turns to speak and be honest, sincere and transparent with what you say.

At Far and Beyond Funerals, our trained staff are on-hand to provide guidance, comfort and support for you and your family. Together we can arrange a service that your loved one deserves. If you would like some more information or are looking for funeral directors in Manchester, get in touch with our team at Far and Beyond Funeral Services today.

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